Last night and this afternoon, my seven-year-old daughter’s dance recital took place. Her excitement was palpable before both events. And I was looking forward to seeing her performances—one tap dancing and one ballet.
However, as the events unfolded, there was an overarching theme which deeply troubled me. And the problem was that many of the dances by girls as young as five, contained not only highly sexualized dance moves, but very inappropriate lyrics. Fortunately, my daughter did not directly participate in these dances. She did, however, watch them.
I’m not sure what would compel an adult to choose music featuring lyrics about cocaine, guns, and “freaky” sex as appropriate music to use. Or how it is possibly a good idea for girls to use dance moves that one could see on the MTV Video Awards—if you get my reference.
Of course, as a parent, I have a responsibility to find a dance studio that represents my values. As readers know, I’m not politically or socially conservative by any stretch of the imagination. But this issue is about way more than a dance recital or my personal views. It’s really about how we view women in our culture.
What does it say about a culture that still in many ways views women as objects? Or thinks it is cute or amusing—as many audience members did—to see girls dancing in a way that—honestly—is degrading?
It says, sadly, that we still have a long f*ing way to go. And as a parent, a man, a person, I won’t allow my daughter or my son to be a part of this.
So here’s a little Bikini Kill and to hoping my lovely daughter is a rebel girl and that my son is a rebel boy.