Wow. Joe Strummer fronting The Pogues and singing, “If I should Fall From Grace With God.” Heavenly. Straight up amazing.
I Am Gonna Stand My Ground
This weekend I was once again struck by the fact that often when couples split up, not only do they not put their kids’ needs first, one or both parents actively act in ways that are harmful to the children. From what I’ve seen, more often than not it is the dad. Sorry guys, but this is what I’ve been observing.
I have to say this continues to astonish me, as I see friends I hold dear fucked over. But even more, I look at their kids, who never asked for any of this to happen. These are kids who really, more that anything, are trying to find comfort and a path through terrain they did not ask to walk.
Colin Meloy of The Decemberists wrote this song for his son. It’s one of the best love songs I know. And it’s a love song from father to son—from parent to child. It’s about loving your kids and standing up for them, protecting them. Because thats’s our job, right? To paraphrase Brene Brown, our job is to love our kids and show them that they are worthy of love.
So what part of doing things against one’s ex—the mother of your kids—fits this? Seriously. While I’m always happy to provide a shoulder to cry on, I’m very tired of it being for this reason. So I guess I’m pissed. I don’t usually write in anger, but someone I care deeply about is in pain and scared for herself—but more so for her kids. And it’s just simply wrong.